Mind Over Matter

Yesterday, while my friend was yet again procrastinating and still managed to message me consistently, I asked him something out of the blue and as usual, he answered me with his inner Confucius spirit.

Me: Do you think life isn't life if you have no one hating on you? 

Chandra: Absolutely!  Think about it. There are only two reasons why people might hate: jealousy or fear. If it's cause of jealousy, then obviously, you're doing something they only wish they could do. If it's cause of fear, then you're doing something that they are unfamiliar with or frightened of. We're only frightened of what we don't know, so really you're doing something they don't know. Something new, something unexplored.

I think it's very normal if someone doesn't like you. There will always be that 1% or more, who will constantly try to bring you down but you should always remember that there's still a huge percentage left; a multitude of people who will always be there for you no matter what. Keep that in mind, so don't let yourself get affected with other people's opinions/thoughts of you.

A few things to ponder upon:

1. A ship won't sink unless the water gets in.
2. Use the people who want to see you fail as motivation to do better.
3. Other people's opinions of you don't define who you are.
4. There will always be someone better but you should know that you're one of the best in some other ways (maybe you aren't just aware of it/them).
5. You're extraordinary so they are either jealous or afraid because they can't be you.

If you have someone hating on you, you're just living your life right. Life will always have obstacles we have to face. If someone's trying to bring you down, don't mind them. Our mind is a very powerful controller so if you keep believing in yourself, then all the roads will lead to success & contentment. As my blog post's title goes, MIND OVER MATTER.

Focus on yourself, the people who are there for you, and think positively! I'm not trying to say that you should go all optimistic but I'm trying to say that you should not let the negativity bring you down. Try to fight it as much as you can. There's no harm in trying after all. And lastly, just be yourself and don't try to change yourself just for the sake of other people.

Stay focused and don't let others bring you down.

All the love as always. 

J xx

If you're looking for someone to talk to, I'm always here!

Also, massive thanks to my friend! Wouldn't be able to have this post if it weren't for your words!